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  • An Interview with Russell L. Ackoff

    By Glenn Detrick —

    Academy of Management Learning and Education
    Volume 1, Issue 1 September 2002

    Russell L. Ackoff is one of the pioneers in management education. With an undergraduate degree in architecture and a PhD in philosophy, Ackoff is one of the founders of operations research and systems thinking, linking science and business. Influential in management thinking for the entire second half of the 20th century, Ackoff has published 22 books and over 200 articles in journals and books, on a myriad of topics. His illustrious academic career has played out primarily at Case Institute of Technology and The Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania. Such is the breadth and reach of his intellectual contribution that the Ackoff Center for Advanced Systems Approaches at the University of Pennsylvania was established as part of the College of Engineering and Applied Sciences. Ackoff has consulted with more than 350 corporations and 75 governmental agencies in the United States and abroad. All have benefited greatly from his “out of the box” thinking and point of view.

    Ackoff provides a particularly useful perspective for this the first issue of the Academy of Management Learning and Education. As you will see from what follows, Ackoff challenges much of current thinking about teaching and learning in terms of what is effective and what isn’t when the ultimate objective is to improve the learning process.

    Interviewer Glenn Detrick is currently cochairman of Educational Benchmarking, Inc. (EBI) and formerly Associate Dean of the Olin School of Business, Washington University. Detrick came under the influence of Ackoff when Ackoff was the visiting Busch Professor at the Olin School in the early 1990s.

    Detrick – Russ, the purpose of the new Academy of Management Learning and Education publication is to present theory, models, research and critical dialog that addresses the learning process and enhances the practice of education in the management disciplines. What thoughts do you have about this objective?

    Ackoff – I think it’s fine as long as it focuses on learning instead of teaching, because there is the implicit assumption in most educational institutions that learning is the converse of teaching; that an ounce of teaching produces an ounce of learning. The fact is that teaching is the major obstruction of learning. Most of what you’re taught you never use and is irrelevant, and what you do use you’ve learned on the job, usually in an apprenticeship relationship. So the whole concept of education as being taught is wrong. Kids learn in school and some adults learn in university not because of the school or university, but in spite of it. People learn from others by following their curiosity, but they learn very little from courses. Certainly very little that is useful.

    When I retired from Wharton, I wrote an article which endeared me to the faculty. The question was, “What are the contributions of business education?” I said there were three. The first was to equip students with a vocabulary that enables them to talk authoritatively about subjects they do not understand. The second was to give students principles that would demonstrate their ability to withstand any amount of disconfirming evidence. The third was to give students a ticket of admission to a job where they could learn something about management.

    Detrick – What did the faculty say about that?

    Ackoff – Most didn’t like it, of course. They really think that what they are teaching is relevant, but it is not. Much of what is taught was relevant at best for organizations between the two world wars. But most business school faculty members don’t know what the hell has happened since then. There’s no general understanding in business schools of the nature of the changes that are occurring in thought and the environment and their significance.

    Detrick – What do business schools need to do to be more effective in focusing on the learning process and what students need? How do they need to change?

    Ackoff – They don’t change for two reasons. First, they’re subsidized, and subsidized institutions are more interested in the source of their funds than they are in the people they serve. So they’re not responsive to the needs of consumers, they’re only responsive to the donors. And the big question is why do so many give money to universities. It’s because they had such a good time when they were there, not because they learned anything. It’s where they became an adult, they got away from home and it was a liberating experience. It was exciting and great; it had nothing to do with learning. So alumni give support as appreciation but not for being taught. We’re going to have to get the universities to support themselves by satisfying customers, which means that they’ve got to react as if in a market economy.

    The second is that you’ve got to get rid of tenure. When I was a student, the earliest age at which a member of the faculty in the department in which I taught got tenure was 55 years old. He had been teaching for thirty years and he had a maximum of ten years to go because of compulsory retirement at 65. Therefore, the university made a ten-year projection on the basis of thirty years of experience. That’s fairly safe. Today, six years after they’re hired, they get tenure or they’re out. So now a 31 year old gets tenure and has forty years or more of commitment from the university. Many of these people get secure and retire intellectually at middle age; they stop thinking. So to answer your question, we must get rid of subsidy and tenure if we’re going to get these institutions to change and improve the learning process.

    Detrick – Do you think in our lifetime we’ll see significant reform of the tenure system?

    Ackoff – Well there are some places that have done it. I believe academic freedom is important, but I think there are better ways of protecting it. Courts can protect it. Tenure has become a protection of incompetence and that’s the problem. It’s a very difficult problem and I don’t see it being solved any time soon. I tried to do it when I was at Wharton. I’d written an article attacking tenure and the local AAUP chapter attacked me. So I challenged the chapter to a test. I said let’s hire a research firm acceptable to both of us to investigate the following question – does tenure protect incompetence more than academic freedom? If it turns out it protects academic freedom more than incompetence, I’ll pay for the research. If it turns out the other way, you’ll pay for it. Well, they wouldn’t take me up on it. They said it was easy for me to criticize tenure because I have it, but I said, “No I don’t.” They said I had to have tenure because I could not be a professor at the University of Pennsylvania without it. But, the day I got tenure I gave the dean an undated resignation so that he could put me out any time he wanted, simply by putting a date on it. Many faculty members came around, slapped me on the back and said what a great thing I had done. I said to my colleagues, “Why don’t you do it as well?” Nobody did. They wanted the security. The alternative, of course, is to be secure because of competence. That’s what we need. To have faculty who are secure because of their competence, not tenure.

    Detrick – If you look at management education from a learning point of view, how could management education effectively reinvent itself? What are the elements you think would be included in an idealized plan for management education?

    Ackoff – I think the critical thing is that until the university operates with an internal market it’s never going to reinvent itself because not only is the university subsidized, but each department is subsidized. Set up an academic program or a research program as a profit center. If departments are pools of faculty defined by their expertise whose only income comes from the selling of faculty time to programs, then universities, colleges and departments would have an incentive to respond to the marketplace. If a faculty member can’t sell his time to a program he becomes a liability, he or she is not re-appointed. This is the way the rest of the world works, why shouldn’t it work in an academic setting?

    One of the things I did at Wharton was I made every professor in my department a profit center. They wouldn’t let me fire anybody so we had a rule that there was no increase in salary if the faculty member was in the red. That completely changed the behavior of faculty. Otherwise, a senior faculty member wanted one seminar a year with eight students. They discovered they needed five courses of 37 students each to break-even and all of a sudden they all wanted the freshman courses with 150 students so they could get their seminar. It completely changed faculty behavior. For the first time, incoming students were exposed to the senior members of the faculty instead of graduate students. What I’m saying is that incentive systems have to effectively take into consideration the needs of students, not just what faculty think they would like to do.

    Detrick – You have always been a strong advocate of experiential learning. Is this important for both students and faculty?

    Ackoff – Yes, for both in an apprenticeship relationship. I was originally an architect. In my opinion, the US only produced three great architects with international reputations: Henry Hobson Richardson, Louis Sullivan, and Frank Lloyd Wright. Each was a student of the other before universities started to teach architecture. Universities started in the early part of the last century and since then we have never produced an architect of the same stature. Apprenticeship is the most effective way of learning anything. I was incredibly lucky as a student. The war interrupted right after I started graduate work so I spent a lot of time during the war reading and writing. When I got back it turned out I had done all the reading for all the graduate courses and the department told me, “Look you’re an embarrassment, we can’t have you sitting there because you’ve read all of this stuff, you know all of it. You teach the course and we’ll give you credit for it,” and that’s how I went through graduate school, teaching most of the courses I had to take for credit. That’s where I learned that although being taught is a lousy way to learn, teaching is a marvelous way. We’ve got schools upside down. The students ought to be teaching. What at least some of the faculty know is how to learn.

    A student stopped me in the hall one day and said, “Professor when was the last time you taught a course in a subject that existed when you were a student.” What a good question! Well, I had to stop and think. I started teaching in 1941, then the war interrupted for four years. I came back and continued to teach what I had been teaching before. But in 1951 I moved to Case Institute of Technology. I moved out of the philosophy department into a new field, operations research, which we had to help create. Starting in 1951 everything I taught was something that didn’t exist when I was a student. So I explained this and the student said, “Wow!” “You’ve had to learn a lot.” I agreed. He said, “You must be a pretty good learner. It’s a shame you’re not that good a teacher.” He had it right, you see. The faculty knows how to learn, not to teach, therefore, what they ought to be doing is encouraging and facilitating the learning of students; not teaching them, but giving them an opportunity to teach so they can learn and do so by other means than by being taught.

    I’m a Fellow of the American Statistical Society yet I never had a course in statistics. At one point I attended a celebration of the American Statistical Society in which they invited the four people its members thought were the major contributors to contemporary statistics in the United States. Turns out that not one of the four had ever had a course in statistics. Isn’t that amazing! Contribution and innovation in a field is much more likely to come from outside than inside. There’s an old saying, which is wonderful – you can’t think out of the box if you’re in it.

    Detrick – There’s so much focus in management education on content that……

    Ackoff – Not on learning.

    Detrick – Yes, and not on learning. I know elsewhere you’ve said that if you can teach students how to learn and want to continue to learn then you’ve made a contribution.

    Ackoff – There are serious errors both in the method and the content of higher education when one looks at “teaching and learning.” Take our proclivity to give examinations. Most examinations are an abomination for two reasons. First of all, they’re not modeled on how people are evaluated in the real world. People are evaluated by what they can do with what they know.

    Detrick – Performance.

    Ackoff – Yes. And secondly, tests are taken in isolation whereas in the real world if I ask you to solve a problem to which you don’t know the solution, I expect you to get all the damn help you can find. It’s your ability to use resources that is important in the real world, not what you can remember to spit back on a test. So our method of giving examinations creates a wrong model. Thirdly, if you’re really committed to learning when you get an examination back and you made errors, there is an opportunity to learn. You ought to take the examination again a week later to see if you’ve learned what the right answers are. Exams ought to be for learning, but they aren’t. They are for reporting “current level of retention,” which is useless down the road. Finally, in our system of examinations you learn that the thing to do is to give teachers the answer they want. And this happens all the time in management. Whenever I work with a group of executives below the CEO on a problem given by him or her the first thing they want to know is, “What does the CEO expect; what’s the right kind of answer?” No wonder there is so little managerial creativity in problem solving.

    Detrick – In the last ten years or so a number of business schools have attempted to make more effective use of active or experiential learning, getting students out into the workplace on real world projects, working with corporate people to give students much more of a sense of what they will face when they get out of school. Do you think these are steps in the right direction?

    Ackoff – They are absolutely steps in the right direction, but not nearly enough of it is happening. What is happening is at the edges with a few elective courses and with a few interested faculty members. At most places, considerations of the effectiveness of the learning process – and effective pedagogies to achieve it – are not part of the core consideration of the faculty. And that’s the root of the problem.

    Detrick – Peter Drucker has recently said that universities in 30 years won’t be what we know them to be today. Do you think he’s right about that?

    Ackoff – I think he’s dead wrong.

    Detrick – Why?

    Ackoff – As Drucker indicates, universities were created in the twelfth century. They haven’t changed very much in the last nine centuries because they’re subsidized and because of a tenure system that is antithetical to change. The content changes but the message doesn’t — and it’s the message that’s fundamentally wrong. To the extent that there is a focus on the teaching/learning process at all, teaching is the focus, not learning. It’s based on the assumption that a group of faculty know what people are going to need later in life. You know that 65% of the graduates in engineering do not practice engineering within 5 years after graduation. Thirty-seven percent of PhDs never practice in the field in which they got their PhD. So sitting around talking about what they ought to learn in school is nonsense. What they ought to learn is how to learn.

    Detrick – All the advancement in technology puts us in position to do a better job of teaching and learning. Or does it?

    Ackoff – Technology is not as important as people make it out to be. They made a terrible mistake in early stages of development with what was called “computer assisted instruction.” It’s absolutely degrading and demoralizing to a person to have a computer trying to teach them. They got the damn thing backwards again; being taught is a lousy way to learn. If you give the students the job of teaching the computer how to do something, then they can learn. So this computer assisted instruction has been terrible. Using a computer as a resource in learning is okay, but not using the computer as a teacher.

    Detrick – Are there bright spots in management education?

    Ackoff – Yes, there are effective individuals around, but not effective institutions. There are people who have got guts and they’re educating in their own way and they’re good enough to be able to get the freedom to do it in ways that are productive and developmental.

    Detrick – Is Jack Welch one of those people who made a contribution to management practice or do you think what people say about his contribution is overstated?

    Ackoff – Crotonville, which is his educational center, is an interesting center; it always has been. It has always been innovative, but over time it has become more conformist. Corporations, in aggregate, are now spending a third more than all the universities and colleges in the United States are spending on education. The terrible thing is that they are just doing the same damn things the universities are doing. Usually, however, the circumstances are better in corporate education units because people have more time to interact and there is a focus on real problems. People learn more effectively when they are focused on real problems.

    The positive thing about executive development programs is that students/executives come from different companies and learn from each other more than from the so-called teachers. That’s what they remember. They form associations and keep in touch with each other. Ask participants what they got out of these programs and they rarely respond that it had anything to do with the content of the program.

    Detrick – Business schools like to talk about the usefulness of cases as a teaching pedagogy. What do you think about using cases as a teaching vehicle?

    Ackoff – A case is a terrible distortion of reality. It is like learning how to box with one hand tied behind you, then you are suddenly thrown into the ring with somebody who has two hands free. You don’t know what to do. You couldn’t box against a two handed person with one hand, but that’s what cases do to/for you. A problem is an abstraction. It’s extracted out of reality by analysis. Reality consists of complex sets of interacting problems, not isolated problems. So when we deal with a problem we’re already dealing with an abstraction — and now somebody comes along and deprives you of the information needed to formulate the problem. This converts the problem into an exercise.

    An exercise is a problem for which the person given the problem to solve is deprived of the information required to formulate it. It doesn’t happen this way in the real world. Case studies are exercises. The most important thing in the real world is being able to differentiate between what’s relevant and what isn’t. The case-study formulator already does that for you. The person who wrote the case study eliminates what they think was irrelevant. I have had cases written on studies that I have done, that I published. The distortion is absolutely unbelievable. It’s nothing like what it was like in the real world. So I don’t think teaching cases is an effective pedagogy. Get students out into the real world where they have to formulate the problems and sort through a myriad of relevant and irrelevant information to do so. They need to be thrown into a mess and asked to work their way out of it.

    Detrick – You define “mess” as a technical term. Define it for us.

    Ackoff – A mess is a system of problems. That means you have to understand what a system is. A system is a whole which is defined by its function in a larger system. It consists of essential parts, each of which can affect the functioning of the whole, but none of which has an independent effect on the whole. When you take a system apart it loses all of its essential properties and so do its parts. An automobile is a simple system you’re familiar with. But if you disassemble the automobile, it loses it function, its ability to carry people from one place to another in privacy and under their control. And the parts lose their function. When you take the motor out of the automobile it can’t move anything, not even itself. Furthermore no part of a system can perform the function as a whole.

    In management education we act as though reality is divided into disciplines and this is absolutely false. There is no such thing as a marketing problem or a financial problem or a production problem. These are points of view, not kinds of problems. You can look at problems from many different points of view. The question is what’s the most effective way to look at a problem. We deal with biological systems, which we understand to some extent, very differently than we deal with corporations. For example, when you get a headache we don’t do brain surgery. We swallow a pill which contains a chemical that dissolves in our stomachs, then it enters the blood stream that carries it up and deposits it on the pain center of the brain. This is effective because someone understands the way the system works, the interaction of the parts. In a corporation if a guy in marketing sees sales goes down in the last quarter he says, “Uh, oh. I’ve got a marketing problem.” He tries to solve the problem by manipulating the variables under his control. That’s like trying to do brain surgery in the previous example. In my experience, over 90 percent of the problems management confronts are better solved someplace other than where they are identified. Systems consist of interacting parts, but managers don’t understand the interaction – partly because we don’t teach it. We teach a course in marketing. Why do we do this? Because that is all a faculty member knows. The only thing that’s important about marketing is how it interacts with production and finance and purchasing – and we never teach that. We teach marketing as though it’s a separate subject. Our teaching does not match the real world and because of this, we are doing our students a disservice.

    
    

    Detrick – Since we talked eleven years ago about the status of management education some schools have tried to move, at least conceptually, toward a more integrated curriculum, not offering just discipline based courses. Is this a step in the right direction?

    Ackoff – Conceptually, yes. But in team teaching, do we still have people teaching their disciplines or do we have a true integration of the disciplines? Interdisciplinary courses are not the answer if they just yield a different format for disciplinary activity. The disciplines are already artifacts. When you break management down into the disciplines there’s no way of putting it together again into a meaningful whole. We need to stop talking about marketing and production and finance and personnel as separate things. That’s why the difference between analysis and synthesis is so important. With analysis you’re always breaking things up into parts and looking at the parts separately. In synthesis you’re always trying to put things together into a whole. We need to teach synthesis, not (just) analysis. The way to learn about a corporation is to design one. The way to learn accounting is not to take a course in accounting but to design an accounting system for a corporation. Design a production system, design a marketing system and there you learn you can’t design marketing independently of production. Where you locate the production facilities, what their capacity is, what the product lines look like, all of this depends on marketing, but marketing depends on a lot of other things. And the interactions become apparent when you design.

    Anheuser-Busch has what they call a Strategy committee. It consists of the vice presidents who report to August Busch. I would bet other people attending a meeting of this committee that at the end of the meeting they would not correctly identify the function of anybody in the meeting, except the CEO. You won’t know who is in charge of metal production, who is in charge of entertainment, who is in charge of beer, who is in charge of international selling, and so on. You will not know in that meeting because they’re not operating as disciplinarians. One thing August learned very early is every vice president in his committee must be a general manager of the corporation and they have to think of the whole.

    Detrick – So the most effective teaching of management has got to come from a general management perspective and part of the problem is that the whole system of training people to be faculty members doesn’t train them to do that?

    Ackoff – I spent five years studying architecture. On my first job I went to an architect’s office where my first job was to design a new front for a neighborhood movie theater. I didn’t know how to do it. In school I designed a new headquarters for the United Nations, crematoriums, a port facility and all kinds of major buildings. I had not been taught to do what I was confronted with on my first assignment, to design something that could be built from the drawing I prepared. Later on I bought a lot and had to build a house that I designed. I learned more architecture designing a house than I did in five years of architecture school. Management education ought to begin with the creation of a corporation. Pick a product. Have students design the new company and they’ll learn more about production, marketing, finance and so on than they will by reading textbooks. And it’s transferable to other products because what they are learning is how to design and what a corporation is, not what its parts are taken separately.

    Detrick – One area I think management education avoids, probably because faculty don’t know what/how to deal with it, is creative thinking. What is it that stimulates creative thinking and thinking outside the current construct?

    Ackoff – The removal of all constraints. All creativity begins with the breaking of an assumption that you normally make and exploring the consequences of doing so. That’s all it is. The creative act is always an act in which you identify an assumption that you have made which prevents you from seeing alternatives, removing that assumption, and exploring the consequences. Is this an important concept in the education of a management student? I would hope so. Do we teach it in management education? No. Why not? Because the faculty don’t know how to do it. That’s a problem with most business curricula. The curricula are designed by a bunch of faculty who want an opportunity to tell people what they know, rather than putting together a design that helps people understand how to be effective in a managerial position. That’s another part of the problem with the educational process. Schools kill creativity because they teach students to give answers that are expected and an answer that is expected can’t be creative.

    Detrick – Lets talk for a minute about some of the stakeholders of management education. How can business schools better serve these various constituencies more effectively? Let’s take undergraduate students. Many of the more prestigious business schools don’t have undergraduate students.

    Ackoff – I think that’s right. I don’t have any very strong feelings about it. I don’t think undergraduate business education is wrong. I think that the lack of a liberal education is wrong. I think that kids coming out of high school need to learn something general and become interested in learning things other than business, and this can be a great adventure. I think the British system is better than ours. Their managers are broadly educated people and ours generally are not. Most American managers are not well rounded. So I think an undergraduate program should be broadening, specialization should come at the graduate level.

    Detrick – How about doctoral students. Do you think they are generally in a position to make informed career decisions?

    Ackoff – Most graduate students do not “know what they want to do,” any more than do undergraduates. What they end up doing is a function of opportunities that present themselves along the way along with their skills and interests. In my department at Wharton I didn’t have a single person on the faculty who had a degree in business. Out of over 20 faculty members, not one had a degree in business. They all started off thinking they were going to be a mechanical engineer or a physicist or a chemist or a historian, but that’s not where they wound up. That’s why you need a general education – because you never know what opportunities might come about. Current doctoral education that pushes an individual deeper and deeper into a discipline in order to do increasingly inane research does not serve such students well.

    Detrick – What, in your view, is the purpose of a university?

    Ackoff – The purpose of a university – and I’m talking here about what it is, not what it should be – is to provide faculty members with the quality of work life that they want. Teaching is the price they pay and like any price, they try to minimize it. You can’t understand a university if you think it’s about education. It’s about providing the faculty with a chance to do what they want to do. Unfortunately, I think this definition helps you better understand the behavior you see in a university than the traditional definition that focuses on education.

    For a while I collected evidence to support this thesis. When I was at Wharton I spent two years as a faculty representative to the College of Engineering. At the time every college at Penn had a representative on the senate of every other college. So for two years I sat in on engineering faculty meetings. It was so damn boring that after the first couple of meetings I started keeping records on the topics discussed. And in two years I found that the word student only came up once. In fact, the meetings had nothing to do with students. They had to do with benefits, academic freedom, teaching loads and schedules and so forth. I guess that’s what you would expect if the purpose of the university was to provide a comfortable environment for the faculty. It was about the faculty, it was not about education.

    Detrick – The cynic in me used to say that the reason companies recruited at top business schools was not for the faculty, but for the admissions office. Good schools attract good students; and the faculty don’t screw them up too badly. What do you think about this hypothesis?

    Ackoff – Well, that’s a wonderful question that I once had an argument with the dean at Wharton about. I said, “Suppose you took the Wharton student body and sent them to community college for an MBA and took the community college students and brought them to Wharton for an MBA. If you are now a corporate executive, who would you be more inclined to hire? He smiled and agreed he would go to the community college. I guess that supports your view. The dean said that in the long run the reputation of Wharton depends at least as much on the quality of its students as on the quality of its faculty. They interact. The faculty’s reputation draws the students. The best reputation does not necessarily mean the best quality, it means it generates the most desirable job offers.

    Detrick – Well, any other thoughts for the good of the order that we didn’t talk about? Things you think would be of interest to the people who are going to read something like the Academy of Management Learning and Education?

    Ackoff – Just reiterate that to think creatively about learning, every single aspect of the educational process ought to be questioned and systematically denied and the consequences explored. When considering how to improve learning, get rid of curriculum, get rid of courses, get rid of examinations, get rid of accreditation, get rid of degrees — and what would education look like? Compare the potential of this with what we currently have, from the point of view of stimulating effective learning. Until you do this, you’ll never have transformation. That’s the difference between transformation and reformation. Reformation is keeping the current system and modifying its behavior, with modest change. But given the potential we are not now realizing, I would argue for creative transformation that focuses more effectively on learning.

  • The Monk and the Philosopher

    By J-F Revel and M. Ricard —

    1. Revel is a renowned French philosopher and atheist and Ricard is his son who has a PhD in biology and a very western education before moving to Asia to become a monk some 30 years ago.

    2. In this dialogue, Ricard defends the validity of his life-changing experience of enlightenment. He does not see his conversion to Buddhism as any repudiation of what he knew as a scientist. Revel is a formidable proponent of liberal Western individualism, of that enlightened self-interest which
    accords so well with Western science.

    3. Ricard became an interpreter for the Dalai Lama.

    4. Ricard: “My scientific career was the result of a passion for discovery…but science, however interesting, wasn’t enough to give meaning to my life.”

    5. Two films that give a very alive and inspiriting account of Tibet and Buddhism: “The Message of the Tibetans” and “Himalaya, Land of Serenity”.

    6. More than a million Tibetans – one in five of the population – died following the Chinese invasion of 1950. 6,000 monasteries, practically all of them, were destroyed. 20% of Tibet’s population were ordained monks, nuns and lamas. Spiritual practice was beyond doubt the principal goal in life for
    most Tibetans. The whole culture was centered around its religion.

    7. Tibetan Buddhist masters are not trying to develop a doctrine but rather to be faithful and accomplished inheritors of a spiritual tradition thousands of years old.

    8. Wisdom is to recognize the ultimate nature of things…The most important science is knowledge of oneself.

    9. There is no fundamental incompatibility between science and the spiritual life.

    10. Buddhism is a metaphysical tradition from which a wisdom applicable in every instance and in all circumstances is derived. What leads many Christians and others to think of Buddhism as not being a religion in the usual sense is the fact that it is not a theistic tradition. Buddhism is not about
    dogma. The Buddha’s teachings are like travel guides that show the way to enlightenment, to ultimate knowledge of the nature of the mind.

    11. Buddha’s collected sermons fill 103 volumes of the Tibetan canon, the Kangyur.

    12. Sutras: the sermons of the Buddha. Samsara: the world or ‘circle’ of rebirths. A Bodhisattva is someone who sets out on the path toward perfection, toward the state of Buddhahood, in order to be able to benefit others.

    13. Buddhism concludes that suffering is born from desire, attachment, hatred, pride, jealousy, lack of discernment, and all the states of mind that are designated as ‘negative’ because they stir up the mind and plunge it into a state of confusion and insecurity.

    14. Buddhism is about altruism and the inner peace that flows from letting go of that belief in a self.

    15. Deep within ourselves it is important to maintain invincible compassion and inexhaustible patience.

    16. Without contemplative practice, you can’t see the nature of mind.

    17. Buddhism speaks of successive states of existence; in other words, everything isn’t limited to just one lifetime.

    18. Nature itself becomes a book of teachings.

    19. The Buddha says that death is just one state in life and that consciousness continues afterward.

    20. Neurology tells us that around 90% of activity in the brain is unconscious. (Interesting!)

    21. Buddhist wisdom is a method for finding some sort of serenity through self-effacement – and about the techniques for mastering the mind.

    22. True patience and nonviolence consist of choosing the most altruistic solution… What counts is the motivation behind our actions and the final result of those actions.

    23. Violence encourages violence, and usually has disastrous effects.

    24. Another source of suffering is self-centeredness.

    25. Buddhists nurture one main ambition without any limits, that of removing the suffering of all living beings throughout the whole universe.
    26. Our own well-being is important, but it should never be to the detriment of others.

    27. In the end, the Buddhist path consists of a new way of perceiving the world, a rediscovery of the true nature of the individual and of phenomena. It allows us to be much less vulnerable to the ups and downs of life, because we know how to take them not only philosophically, but also joyfully, using
    difficulty and success as catalysts to make rapid progress in our spiritual practice. It is not a matter of withdrawing from the world, but of understanding its nature. You don’t look away from suffering, you look for a cure for it and go beyond it.

    28. All the joy the world contains has come through wishing happiness for others. All the misery the world contains has come through wanting pleasure for oneself.

    29. What’s so harmful is, of course, the ego’s excesses.

    30. The spiritual path consists of freeing oneself from negative emotions and ignorance and, in so doing, actualizing the perfection that’s already present within us.

    31. I think the simplest possible way to define Buddhism is, first and foremost, to see it as a path. The goal of that path is to attain what can be called ‘perfection’, ultimate knowledge, enlightenment,merging with the absolute, or, technically speaking, the state of Buddhahood.
    32. Enlightenment is sometimes called “awakening”.

    33. The Buddhist way is a discovery rather than anything else.

    34. After achieving his own welfare by attaining enlightenment, the Buddha begins to deploy his vast activity to help others, to teach and show them the path. His teachings are the direct expression of his spiritual realization. They are like travel guides that lead others along the same path he took
    himself.

    35. Discovering ultimate wisdom within oneself. The goals isn’t to get out of the world, it is to no longer be enslaved to it.

    36. We can put an end to the causes of suffering. To reach such a result, we have to cut through the root of the problem, the ignorance – the belief in a self – that causes it.

    37. The Mahayana emphasized that to free oneself alone from suffering is a severely limited goal. The broader goal is to transform yourself in order to acquire the capacity to help others free themselves from suffering.

    38. The primary cause of torture and war is still hatred. Any lasting peace can only come from a change of attitude.

    39. Whatever happens to us is never just by chance. We have created the causes of our present sufferings ourselves.

    40. If we understand that negative actions lead to suffering both for ourselves and others, and that positive actions lead to happiness, it is up to us to act now in such a way as to build our own future by sowing ‘good seeds’.

    41. The Dalai Lama is always emphasizing that any religion practiced in its true spirit has the well-being of all as its goal, and so surely ought to be a factor in peace.

    42. As soon as human beings allowed themselves to say, ‘There is only one true God, and that’s mine, so I have the right to annihilate anyone who doesn’t believe in him’, the cycle of intolerance and religious wars began. Genocide continues to be perpetrated in the name of religion.

    43. The Dalai Lama often says, ‘We should have total conviction in our own spiritual path along with perfect respect toward other truths’.

    44. To act on the world without having transformed oneself can’t lead to either lasting or profound happiness.

    45. With the greatest teachers you could not find the slightest trace of ego.

    46. To be able to help beings, there should no longer be any difference between what you teach and what you are.

    47. By no longer cherishing and protecting the self, you acquire a much wider and deeper view of the world… Someone free of egocentric perceptions can have a much vaster effect on the world.

    48. Tibetan civilization dedicated itself to the contemplative life, to developing a very pragmatic knowledge of how the mind works, in such a way as to enable people to free themselves from suffering.

    49. The goal of the spiritual path is to eliminate any trace of pride, jealousy and hatred from the current consciousness, and become incapable of doing anything harmful to others.

    50. Spiritual and temporal can be combined in an intelligent and constructive way, as long as one remains aware of their respective importance.

    51. Buddhism considers that each person has to start where they are and use the methods that match their nature and their personal capacities.

    52. Give priority to the quest for inner well-being. Buddhism can help people see how basic qualities like love, compassion, tolerance, and patience can actually be cultivated, and that it is possible to master one’s own mind. The goal is to dissolve attachment to the ego.

    53. Buddhism does not try to convert anyone.

    54. Someone can have a very rich spiritual life while only spending several minutes or an hour a day actually in contemplative practice.

    55. What we are at present is the result of our past. Acts certainly bear their results.

    56. Buddhism offers the west a vision of tolerance, open-mindedness, altruism, quiet confidence and a science of the mind. It makes it ideas available but does not try to impose them.

    57. The Dalai Lama: “If you find anything I’ve said useful, make use of it. Otherwise, forget it! It is better to encourage those who believe in something to deepen their own faith. The point isn’t to convert people but to contribute to their well-being.

    58. When the Dalai Lama spoke of love and compassion, everyone felt that his words were a direct expression of his experience. He was really living what he said.

    59. Wars have never been waged in Buddhism’s name or with its blessing.

    60. If an individual does not become more peaceful, a society that is the sum total of such individuals will never become more peaceful either.

    61. Our educational systems these days hardly deal at all with becoming a better human being.

    62. The Dalai Lama often says that we can do without religion, but no one can do without love, compassion and tenderness.

    63. Compassion according to Buddhism is the wish to remedy all forms of suffering, and especially to tackle its causes – ignorance, hatred, desire, and so on.

    64. It’s important to be aware that our joy and our suffering are intimately linked to those of others. Wisdom and intelligence give so much strength to compassion.

    65. The Dalai Lama: “It is important that effective methods of contraception continue to be developed so as to avoid as much as possible any recourse to abortion.”

    66. What distinguishes Buddhism from Christianity is its rejection of the notion of sin, especially original sin.

    67. Man’s deepest wish is for happiness.

    68. Life is short and if we want to develop our inner qualities, it’s never too soon to get started.

    69. Lack of responsibility is one of the big weaknesses of our age.

    70. Never stop teaching that all living beings have the same rights to life and happiness.

    71. In other religions, to become a believer you have to agree to have faith in a certain amount of dogma from the start. But that is not the case with Buddhism.

    72. Consider the Buddha not as a god but a guide and as a symbol of enlightenment; the Dharma isn’t a dogma but a path. Buddhism doesn’t force things or try to convert people.

    73. The main thing that Buddhism has been investigating is the nature of the mind.

    74. Death has become a friend. It is no more than a stage in life, a simple transition.

    75. Thinking about death isn’t at all depressing, in fact, if we use it as a reminder, to help us stay aware of how fragile life is, and to give meaning to every instant of existence.

    76. Einstein wrote: “The religion of the future will be a cosmic religion. It should transcend a personal God and avoid dogma and theology. Covering both the natural and the spiritual, as a meaningful unity. Buddhism answers this description… If there is any religion that could cope with modern
    scientific needs, it would be Buddhism.

    77. Unable to find happiness within ourselves, we desperately look for it outside.

    78. Spiritual practice is based on experiential exploration and discovery that has to be pushed just as far into the inner world as science pushes its explorations into the outer world.

    79. Buddhism isn’t a religion that requires an act of blind faith It doesn’t require people to rule out or condemn other doctrines. It is a system of wisdom, a philosophy marked by tolerance.

    80. The world can only be changed by changing ourselves. A Buddhist thinks that those who know how to be content with what they already have are holding a treasure in their hands.

    81. Tibetan nomads and Bhutanese farmers might not earn as much as American businessmen, but their lives have a dimension quite beyond any accountant’s spreadsheet.

    82. I think it is possible to acquire wisdom, fulfillment, and serenity, all of them arising from knowledge, or from what could be called spiritual realization.

    83. Finally what we all seek in life is happiness… the fulfillment of living in a way that wholly matches the deepest nature of our being… Happiness necessarily implies wisdom. The other essential components of happiness are altruism, love and compassion. How can we find happiness for
    ourselves when, all around us, there are others suffering all the time? Our own happiness is
    intimately linked to the happiness of others.

  • Teachings of the Buddha

    1. The word “Buddha” means ‘one who is awake’. It is the experience of awakening to the truth of life that is offered in the Buddhist tradition.

    2. The Buddha saw that human freedom must come from practicing a life of inner and outer balance, and he called this discovery the Middle Path.

    3. The Buddha sat in the midst of these forces with his heart open and his mind clear until he could see to the depths of human consciousness, until he discovered a place of peace at the center of them all.

    4. From the Buddha’s enlightenment, two great powers were awakened in him: transcendent wisdom and universal compassion.

    5. His teachings, which the Buddha called the Dharma, or Way, are an invitation to follow the path of enlightenment.

    6. There are a vast array of meditation practices to train the mind and the heart, including awareness of the breath and body, mindfulness of feelings and thoughts, practices of mantra and devotion, visualization and contemplative reflection, and practices leading to refined and profoundly expanded states of
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    7. Buddhist texts were originally recited and passed down orally for six hundred years before being written down.

    8. Bodhisattvas are awakened beings who follow and teach in the spirit of the Buddha.

    9. “With great perseverance he meditates, seeking freedom and happiness.”

    10. We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.

    11. Speak and act with a pure mind and happiness will follow you.

    12. Let no one deceive another or despise any state, let none by anger or hatred wish harm to another.

    13. See yourself in others. Then whom can you hurt? What harm can you do? For your brother is like you. He wants to be happy. Never harm him and when you leave this life, you too will find happiness.

    14. To associate not with the foolish, to be with the wise, to honor the worthy ones, this is a blessing supreme. To reside in a suitable location, to have good past deeds done, to set oneself in the right direction, this is a blessing supreme. To be well spoken, highly trained, well educated and highly
    disciplined, this is a blessing supreme.

    15. Be reverent and humble, content and grateful.

    16. How joyful to keep company with the wise.

    17. If you cannot find friend or master to go with you, travel on alone – like a king who has given away his kingdom, like an elephant in the forest. But if the traveler can find a virtuous and wise companion, let him go joyfully and overcome the dangers of the way.

    18. Again and again, look within.

    19. In this world hate never yet dispelled hate. Only love dispels hate. This is the law, ancient and
    inexhaustible.

    20. Profound truth is not to be gained by mere reasoning, and is visible only to the wise.

    21. The extinction of greed, the extinction of hate, the extinction of delusion: this, indeed, is called Nirvana.

    22. The purpose of the Holy Life does not consist in acquiring alms, honor or fame, nor in gaining morality, concentration or the eye of knowledge. That unshakable deliverance of the heart: that, indeed, is the object of the Holy Life, that is its essence, that is its goal.

    23. In this world the wise person becomes themselves a light, pure, shining, free.

    24. This only is the Law, that all things are impermanent.

    25. By your own efforts waken yourself, watch yourself, and live joyfully.

    26. Love yourself and be awake – today, tomorrow, always. First establish yourself in the Way, then teach others and so defeat sorrow. To straighten the crooked you must first do a harder thing – straighten yourself. You are your only master. Who else? Subdue yourself, and discover your master.

    27. Having abandoned ill will and hatred, he dwells with a benevolent mind, sympathetic for the welfare of all living beings.

    28. Get rid of the tendency to judge yourself above, below or equal to others.

    29. Health, contentment and trust are your greatest possessions, and freedom your greatest joy.

    30. The wise person should do good – that is the treasure which will not leave one.

    31. The Buddha taught: Do not pursue the past. Do not lose yourself in the future. The past no longer is. The future has not yet come. Looking deeply at life as it is, in the very here and now, the practitioner dwells in stability and freedom. We must be diligent today. To wait until tomorrow is too late.

    32. Searching for truth I saw ‘inward peace’.

    33. Do not be the judge of people; do not make assumptions about others. A person is destroyed by holding judgments about others.

    34. Be ye lamps upon yourselves.

    35. Do not search for the truth; only cease to cherish opinions.

    36. Do not follow the ideas of others, but learn to listen to the voice within yourself. Your body and mind will become clear and you will realize the unity of all things.

    37. Your search among books, word upon word, may lead you to the depths of knowledge, but it is not the way to receive the reflection of your true self.

    38. If you cannot find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?

  • The Seat of the Soul

    By Gary Zukav

    p. 21 “Our deepest understanding tells us that a truly evolved being is one that values others more than it values itself, and that values love more than it values the physical world and what is in it.”

    p. 22 “The need for physical dominance produces a type of competition that affects every aspect of our lives.”

    p. 23 “All of our institutions—social, economic and political—reflect our understanding of power as external.” (The author sees external power as bad)

    p. 24 “We have come to perceive power as in the possession of a few while the majority serve it as victims.”

    p. 24 Anything we fear to lose is a symbol of external power. “What we fear is an increase in our vulnerability.”

    p. 25 “Competition for external power lies at the heart of all violence.”

    p. 26 When we align our thoughts, emotions, and actions with the highest part of ourselves, we experience authentic power.

    p. 27 “We are evolving from a species that pursues external power into a species that pursues authentic power.”

    p. 29 **“Your personality, like your body, is the vehicle of your evolution. The decisions that you make and the actions that you take upon the Earth are the means by which you evolve.”

    p. 31 “When the personality comes fully to serve the energy of its soul, that is authentic empowerment. This is the goal of the evolutionary process in which we are involved and the reason for our being.”

    p. 37 “The conflicts of a human’s life are directly proportional to the distance at which an energy of personality exists separately from the soul.”

    p. 38 “For many of us, being held responsible is equal to getting caught.”

    p. 40 **“You receive from the world what you give to the world.”

    p. 44 “The road to your soul is through your heart.”

    p. 45 “Non-judgmental justice is a perception that allows you to see everything in life, but does not engage your negative emotions.”

    p. 49 “We justify our exploitation of Life upon what we perceive to be the design of Nature.”

    p. 56 “There is currently no place for spirituality within science, politics, business or academia.”

    p. 57 “It is not natural for us to live without reverence, because that separates us from the basic energy of the soul.”

    p. 60 “As we have come to seek and wield external power consciously, we have come to view feelings as unnecessary appendages.”

    p. 61 **“Emotions reflect intentions. Therefore, awareness of emotions leads to awareness of intentions.”

    p. 61 “The path to reverence is through your heart, and only awareness of your feelings can open your heart.”

    p. 71 **“Hatred of evil does not diminish evil, it increases it.”

    p. 83 “Intellect is meant to expand perceptions.”

    p. 86 “Intuition serves inspiration.”

    p. 102 “Every decision that you make either moves you toward your personality, or toward your soul.”

    p. 102 **“The ultimate first act of free will: How do you wish to learn.”

    p. 106 “Every experience, and every change in your experience, reflects an intention. An intention is more than a desire.”

    p. 120 “The human emotional spectrum can be broken down into two basic elements: love and fear.”

    p. 123 “We believe that we are not responsible for the consequences of our actions. We act as though we are not affected when we take and take and take.”

    p. 123 “The world in which we live has been created unconsciously by unconscious intentions.”

    p. 123 “You create in each moment.”

    p. 129 “What you intend is what you become.”

    p. 131 “The challenge to each human is creation.”

    p. 135 “The center of the evolutionary process is choice.”

    p. 149 “Recognition of your own addictions requires that you look clearly at the places where you lose power in your life, where you are controlled by external circumstances.”

    p. 155 **“What stands between you and a different life are matters of responsible choice.”

    p. 159 “Everything in the Universe evolves. It is only a question of which way you will choose to learn as you evolve. This is always your choice, and there is always wisdom in each choice.”

    p. 162 “The marriage archetype reflects the perception of power as external.”

    p. 166 “The true human condition in its most perfect form has no secrets.”

    p. 171 “Authentic empowerment is not gained by making choices that do not stretch you.”

    p. 189 “It is the health of the soul that is the true purpose of the human experience.”

    p. 215 What is failure? Simply the process of cause and effect in action.

    p. 242 “There is nothing without value that exists upon the Earth.”

    p. 248 **“Choose the most positive behavior in each moment.”

  • How to Win Friends and Influence People

    By Dale Carnegie —

    p. XIX “Compared to what we ought to be, we are only half awake. We are making use of only a small part of our physical and mental resources. Stating the thing broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits. He possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use.” William James

    p. XIX “Education is the ability to meet life’s situations.” John G. Hibben

    p. 6 “By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes.”

    p. 8 “Criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home.”

    p. 17 “To know all is to forgive all.”

    **p. 18 “The deepest urge in human nature is ‘the desire to be important.’” John Dewey

    p. 21 “If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I’ll tell you what you are. That determines your character.”

    p. 27 “There is nothing I need so much as nourishment for my self-esteem.” Alfred Lunt

    p. 29 “Flattery will do you more harm than good. Flattery is counterfeit, and it will eventually get you into trouble.”

    p. 29 “Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.”

    p. 29 “We usually spend about 95% of our time thinking about ourselves.”

    **p. 30 “One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation.”

    p. 31 “Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.” R.W. Emerson

    p. 33 “Every act you have ever performed since the day you were born was performed because you wanted something.”

    p. 34 “The only way to influence people is to talk in terms of what the other person wants.”

    p. 37 “If there is any one secret of success it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” Henry Ford

    p. 47 “First arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.” Harry Overstreet

    p. 50 “Self-expression is the dominant necessity of human nature.” William Winter

    Fundamental techniques in handling people

    1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. p. 17
    2. Give honest and sincere appreciation. p. 31
    3. Arouse in the other person an eager want. p. 50

    p. 54 “You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

    p. 55 “It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”

    **p. 59 “To be genuinely interested in other people is a most important quality for any person to possess.”

    p. 60 “If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people—things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.”

    p. 61 “If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm.”

    p. 64 “We are interested in others when they are interested in us.” Publilius Syrus

    p. 67 “There’s far more information in a smile than a frown.”

    p. 68 “People rarely succeed at anything unless they have fun doing it.” (author’s observation)

    p. 71 “Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.”

    **p. 71 “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abe Lincoln

    p. 82 “One of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will is by remembering names and making people feel important.”

    p. 85 “Genuinely listening is one of the highest compliments we can pay anyone.”

    p. 94 “The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.”

    Six ways to make people like you

    1. Become genuinely interested in other people. p. 65
    2. Smile. p. 74
    3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. p. 83
    4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. p. 93
    5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. p. 98
    6. Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely. p. 111

    p. 118 “If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s good will. Ben Franklin

    p. 120 “Hatred is never ended by hatred, but by love,” (Buddha) and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and a sympathetic desire to see the other person’s view point.

    How to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument: p. 120-121

    • Welcome the disagreement.
    • Distrust your first instinctive impression.
    • Control your temper.
    • Listen first.
    • Look for areas of agreement.
    • Be honest.
    • Genuinely promise to think over your opponent’s ideas and study them carefully.
    • Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest.
    • Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.

    p. 124 “If you are going to prove anything, don’t let anybody know it.”

    **p. 124 “You cannot teach a man anything ; you can only help him to find it within himself.” Galileo

    p. 125 “You will never get into trouble by admitting that you may be wrong.”

    p. 126 “Few people are logical.”

    p. 127 “The little word ‘my’ is the most important one in human affairs, and to properly reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom.” James Harvey Robinson

    p. 139 “Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes, but it raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and exaltation to admit one’s mistakes.”

    **p. 142 “By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.”

    p. 145 “If you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are a sincere friend.” Abe Lincoln

    p. 156 “It doesn’t pay to argue.”

    p. 157 “He who treads softly goes far.”

    p. 176 “You deserve very little credit for being what you are.” (open for discussion)

    p. 197 “The way to get things done is to stimulate competition.” Charles Schwab

    p. 197 “All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory.” Ancient Greek

    Winning people to your way of thinking

    1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. p. 122
    2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say ‘You’re wrong.” p. 134
    3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. p. 142
    4. Begin in a friendly way. p. 151
    5. Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately. p. 157
    6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking. p. 163
    7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers. p. 169
    8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. p. 175
    9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. p. 184
    10. Appeal to the nobler motives. p. 190
    11. Dramatize your ideas. p. 195
    12. Throw down a challenge. p. 199

    p. 205 “It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.”

    **p. 226 “I have no right to do or say anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself.” Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

    p. 234 “If you want to improve a person in a certain respect, act as though that particular trait were already one of his or her outstanding characteristics.”

    To change attitudes or behavior: p. 246

    • Be sincere.
    • Know exactly what it is you want the other person to do.
    • Be empathetic.
    • Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest.
    • Match those benefits to the other person’s wants.
    • When you make your request, put it in a form that will convey to the other person the idea that he personally will benefit.

    Be a leader

    1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation. p. 210
    2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. p. 214
    3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. p. 219
    4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. p. 222
    5. Let the other person save face. p. 226
    6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be ‘hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.’ p. 232
    7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. p. 237
    8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. p. 242
    9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. p. 247
  • Good to Great

    By Jim Collins —

    1. “Good is the enemy of great. We don’t have great schools, principally because we have good schools. To go from good to great requires transcending the curse of competence.”

    2. “We believe that almost any organization can substantially improve its stature and performance, perhaps even become great, if it conscientiously applies the framework of ideas we’ve uncovered… Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice.”

    3. “They first got the right people on the bus, the wrong people off the bus, and the right people in the right seats – and then they figured out where to drive it.” “Hey, I got on this bus because of who else is on it; if we need to change direction to be more successful, fine with me.” “‘Who’ questions come before “what” questions – before vision, before strategy, before tactics, before organizational structure, before technology.” “Character, work ethic, basic intelligence, dedication to fulfilling commitments, and values are ingrained.” “The only way to deliver to the people who are achieving is to not burden them with the people who are not achieving.”

    4. “…unwavering faith that you can and will prevail in the end, AND at the same time have the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”

    5. “When you have disciplined people, you don’t need hierarchy. When you have disciplined thought, you don’t need bureaucracy. When you have disciplined action, you don’t need excessive controls.”

    6. “Transformations never happen in one fell swoop; ‘good to great’ comes about by a cumulative process – step by step.”

    7. “Put your best people on your biggest opportunities, not your biggest problems…Managing your problems can only make you good, whereas building your opportunities is the only way to become great.”

    8. “Breakthrough results come about by a series of good decisions, diligently executed and accumulated one on top of another.”

    9. “You absolutely cannot make a series of good decisions without first confronting the brutal facts.”

    10. “Lead with questions, not answers.” “Leadership: getting people to confront the brutal facts and act on the implications. One of the primary ways to de-motivate people is to ignore the brutal facts of reality.”

    11. Be a catalyst! “Focus on the few things that will have the greatest impact.”

    12. “The key lies not in better information, but in turning information into information that cannot be ignored.”

    13. “Hedgehogs see what is essential, and ignore the rest. Take a complex world and simplify it into a single organizing idea, a basic concept that unifies and guides everything.” “The HH (Hedgehog) Concept is a turning point in the journey from good to great. Everything from here on out hinges upon having the right HHC.” “Anything that does not fit with our HHC, we will not do.” “To create great results requires a nearly fanatical dedication to the ideas of consistency within the HHC.” Suggested HHC for high schools: “Improve classroom teaching effectiveness to
    engage students in substantive learning.”

    14. “You never just focus on what you’ve accomplished for the year; you focus on what you’ve accomplished relative to exactly what you said you were going to accomplish– no matter how tough the measure.”

    15. “Create a “stop doing list” and systematically unplug anything extraneous.” “The real question is, once you know the right thing, do you have the discipline to do the right thing and, equally important, to stop doing the wrong things?”

    16. “There’s too much waste in teaching. Getting rid of it takes tenacity, not brilliance.”

    17. “Technology can be an accelerator, but not a creator, of momentum.”

    18. Need to “improve relative to an absolute standard of excellence”, not just be as good as or better than others who, truth be told, are mediocre.
    19. Sometimes we need a “BHAG” (Big, hairy, audacious goal).

    20. “It is no harder to build something great than to build something good. We must realize that much of what we’re doing is at least a waste of energy.” “Perpetuating mediocrity is an inherently depressing process.”

    21. “He could not fire tenured professors, but he could hire the right people for every opening, gradually creating an environment where the wrong people felt increasingly uncomfortable.”

    Glenn Detrick

  • Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life

    By Martin Seligman —

    p. iii “Curing the negatives does not produce the positives.”

    p. iv “The skills of becoming happy turn out to be almost entirely different from the skills of not being sad, not being anxious, or not being angry.”

    p. vii “Self-esteem seems only to be a symptom, a correlate, of how well a person is doing in the world.”

    p. 3-10 There are 2 ways to look at life’s occurrences: optimistically or pessimistically. Both ways of thinking seriously affect many aspects of a person’s life (work, health etc.)

    **p. 13 “Failure can occur when talent and desire are present in abundance, but optimism is missing.”

    p. 14 “Dealing with depression, achievement, and physical health are 3 of the most obvious applications of learned optimism.”

    p. 24 “All you have to do to change the person is to change the environment.” (a view once, but no longer, held by behavioral psychologists)

    p. 33-39 Test of Personal Optimism

    p. 44-51 How to score the test

    p. 44 “Your habitual way of explaining bad events, your explanatory style, stems directly from your view of your place in the world.”

    p. 44 “There are 3 crucial dimensions to your explanatory style: permanence, pervasiveness, and personalization.”

    p. 44 “If you think about bad things in always’s and never’s and abiding traits, you have a permanent, pessimistic style. If you think in sometimes’s and lately’s, if you use qualifiers and blame bad events on transient conditions, you have an optimistic style.”

    p. 45 “People who believe good events have permanent causes are more optimistic than people who believe they have temporary causes.”

    p. 46 “People who make universal explanations for their failures give up on everything when a failure strikes in one area. People who make specific explanations may become helpless in that one part of their life yet march stalwartly on in the others.”

    p. 48 “Finding temporary and specific causes for misfortune is the art of hope.”

    p. 50 “People who believe they cause good things tend to like themselves better than people who believe good things come from other people or circumstances.”

    p. 52 “The question is whether or not changing beliefs about failure from internal to external will undermine responsibility.” (a question the author posses. He believes that one should only do this if a person is depressed)

    p. 53 If you are a pessimist then:

    • You are likely to get depressed easily
    • You are probably achieving less at work
    • You are probably not as healthy as you could be
    • Life is not as pleasurable as it should or could be

    p. 59-63 Test of depression and scoring of test

    p. 75 “Rumination combined with pessimistic explanatory style is the recipe for severe depression.”

    p. 89-90 Cognitive therapy uses 5 tactics:

    1. “You learn to recognize the automatic thoughts flitting through your consciousness at the times you feel worst.”
    2. “You learn to dispute the automatic thoughts by marshaling contrary evidence.”
    3. “You learn to make different explanations, call reattributions, and use them to dispute your automatic thoughts.”
    4. “You learn how to distract yourself from depressing thoughts.”
    5. “You learn to recognize and question the depression-sowing assumptions governing so much of what you do.”

    p. 90 “Life consists of putting my fingers in the biggest leaks in the dam.”

    p. 91 “Often we distort reality [for ourselves] more than drunks do.”

    **p. 101 Aptitude, motivation and optimism are the 3 most needed characteristics in order to obtain success at a challenging job.

    p. 109 “There is considerable evidence that depressed people, though sadder, are wiser.”

    p. 109 “Poor social skills are a symptom of depression.”

    p. 111 “There is clear evidence that non-depressed people distort reality in a self-serving direction and depressed people tend to see reality accurately.”

    p. 113 “There are times and places where we need our pessimism.”

    p. 125 “On a whole, prepubescent children are extremely optimistic.”

    p. 127 “Explanatory style sets in early.”

    p. 149 In younger children, “the average boy will have many more depressive symptoms and suffer more severe depression than the average girl.”

    p. 154 “I have come to think that the notion of potential, without the notion of optimism, has very little meaning.”

    p. 163 Data from studies on professional basketball and baseball players show:

    • “Teams, and not just individuals, have a meaningful and measurable explanatory style.”
    • “Explanatory style predicts how teams will do above and beyond how ‘good’ a team is.”
    • Success on the playing field is predicted by optimism and failure on the playing field is predicted by pessimism.”
    • Explanatory style works by means of how a team does under pressure-after a loss or in the late innings of close games.”

    p.171 “The mind can indeed control illness.”

    p.174 “People who isolate themselves when they are sick tend to get sicker.”

    p.179 “The way we look at bad events—our theory of tragedy—remains fixed across our lives.”

    p. 185-198 Seligman partnered up with Harold Zullow to investigate the optimism of past presidents and their opponents in all the elections from 1900-1984. Their results then led them to try and predict the 1988 election. Their final prediction was that Bush would beat Dukakis by 9.2%; when the votes were actually tallied, Bush won by 8.2%.

    p. 192 “In the 22 presidential elections from 1900 through 1984, Americans chose the more optimistic-sounding candidate eighteen times. In all elections in which an underdog pulled off an upset, he was the more optimistic candidate. The margin of victory was very strongly related to the margin in pessrum (pessimism and rumination), with landslides won by candidates who were much more optimistic than their opponents.”

    p. 198-202 Gabriele zu Oettingen-Oettingen und Oettingen-Spielberg conducted a study to see if East and West Berliners differed in their optimism after their city was divided between the differing political systems of the U.S. and Russia. She found that East Berliners display much more despair—as measured by both words and body language—than West Berliners. However, it was not totally conclusive that the 2 different governments were the specific cause of her results.

    **p. 207 OVERVIEW THUS FAR: “Life inflicts the same setbacks and tragedies on the optimist as on the pessimist, but the optimist weathers them better. As we have seen, the optimist bounces back from defeat, and, with his life somewhat poorer, he picks up and starts again. The pessimist gives up and falls into depression. Because of his resilience, the optimist achieves more at work, at school and on the playing field. The optimist has better physical health and may even live longer. Americans want optimists to lead them. Even when things go well for the pessimist, he is haunted by forebodings of catastrophe.”

    p.208-209 Guidelines for Using Optimism:

    A. Use Optimism if:

    1. You are in an achievement situation (getting a promotion, selling a product,

    writing a difficult report, winning a game).

    2. You are concerned about how you will feel (fighting off depression,

    keeping up morale, etc.)

    3. If the situation is apt to be protracted and your physical health is an issue

    4. If you want to lead or inspire people or if you want people to vote for you

    B. Do not use optimism if:

    1. You goal is to plan for a risky or uncertain future

    2. Your goal is to counsel others whose future is dim

    3. If you want to appear sympathetic to the troubles of others, don’t start with

    optimism (but use it later)

    p. 217 “There are two general ways for you to deal with your pessimistic beliefs once you are aware of them. The first is simply to distract yourself when they occur—try to think of something else. The 2nd is to dispute them. Disputing is more effective in the long run, because successfully disputed beliefs are less likely to recur when the same situation presents itself again.”

    p. 220 Four important ways to make your disputation convincing

    1. Evidence (The most convincing way of disputing a negative belief is to show that it is factually incorrect. p. 221)
    2. Alternatives (Almost nothing that happens to you has just one cause. p. 221)
    3. Implications (Often there are many possible implications; don’t just focus on the negative
    4. Usefulness (Sometimes the consequences of holding a belief matter more than the truth of the belief. p. 223).

    **p. 255 “Everyone has his own point of discouragement, his own wall. What you do when you hit this wall can spell the difference between helplessness and mastery, between failure and success.”

    p. 256 “Optimistic individuals produce more, particularly under pressure, than do pessimists.”

    p. 256-257 “Every successful company, every successful life for that matter, requires both accurate appreciation of reality and the ability to dream beyond the present reality.”

    p. 282 “This is the age of personal control.”

    p. 282-283 “The deciding, choosing, hedonistically preoccupied individual became big business. When the individual has a lot of money to spend, individualism becomes a powerful, and profitable, worldview.”

    p. 283 “Inflated expectations are rooted in the expansion of choice.”

    p. 284 “The life committed to nothing larger than itself is a meager life indeed.”

    **p. 291 “Optimism is a tool to help the individual achieve the goals he has set for himself. It is in the choice of the goals themselves that meaning—or emptiness—resides.”

    The bottom line: Optimism can be learned – and to much positive effect.

  • Man’s Search for Meaning

    By Victor Frankl —

    P.11: “The central theme of existentialism: to live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.”

    P.12: “He takes a surprisingly hopeful view of man’s capacity to transcend his predicament and discover an adequate guiding truth.”

    P.16: “I wrote the book within nine successive days.” “I had wanted simply to convey to the reader by way of a concrete example that life holds a potential meaning under any conditions, even the most miserable ones… I therefore felt responsible for writing down what I had gone through, for I thought it might be helpful to people who are prone to despair.”

    P.17: “For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself.”

    “Experiences in a Concentration Camp”

    P.21: “It is the inside story of a concentration camp, told by one of its survivors.”

    P.22: “This was an unrelenting struggle… for life itself.”

    P.26/27: “Once lost, the will to live seldom returned… (We were) ragged human figures, grey in the greyness of dawn, trekking along the straight desolate roads, to what destination we did not know.”

    P.57: “The salvation of man is through love and in love.”

    P.64: “The size of human suffering is absolutely relative.”

    P.86: “The experiences of camp life show that man does have a choice of action Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom, of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic and physical stress.”

    *P.86: “…everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

    P.87: “…in the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision and not the result of camp influences alone.”

    P.87: “It is this spiritual freedom – which can not be taken away – that makes life meaningful and purposeful.”

    P.94/95: “It is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future… The prisoner who had lost faith in the future – his future – was doomed.”

    *P. 97: “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”

    P.98: “We had to teach the despairing men that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us… Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual. These tasks, and therefore the meaning of life, differ from man to man, and from moment to moment. Thus it is impossible to define the meaning of life in a general way.”

    P.101: “A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life.”

    P.103: “And I quote from Nietzsche: ‘That which does not kill me, makes me stronger.’”

    *P.104: “What you have experienced, no power on earth can take from you.”

    Glenn Detrick

    2/06

  • Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

    By Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi —

    P. ix “This book summarizes…decades of research on the positive aspects of human experience – joy, creativity, the process of total involvement with life that I call flow.

    a joyful life is an individual creation that cannot be copied from a recipe.

    …this book presents general principles…to transform boring and meaningless lives into ones full of enjoyment.”

    P. 1 “Aristotle concluded that, more than anything else, men and women seek happiness.”… “We do not understand what happiness is any better than Aristotle did… people often end up feeling that their lives have been wasted, that instead of being filled with happiness their years were spent in anxiety and boredom.”

    P. 2 “The intent of this book is to use some of the tools of modern psychology to explore this very ancient question: When do people feel most happy?”

    “What I ‘discovered’ was that happiness is not something that happens. It is not the result of good fortune or random chance. It is not something that money can buy or power command. It does not depend on outside events, but rather, on how we interpret them. Happiness, in fact, is a condition that must be prepared for, cultivated, and defended privately by each person. People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy.”

    Quoting Victor Frankl, “…success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue…as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.”

    P.3 “The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile. Optimal experience is thus something that we make happen.

    P. 4 “Getting control of life is never easy and sometimes it can definitely be painful. But in the long run optimal experiences add up to a sense of mastery – or perhaps better, a sense of participation in determining the content of life – that comes as close to what is usually meant by happiness as anything else we can conceivably imagine.”

    “Flow is that state in which people are so involved in any activity that nothing else seems to matter.”

    P. 5 “What would really satisfy people is not getting slim or rich, but feeling good about their lives.

    “However well intentioned, books cannot give recipes for how to be happy…each person has to achieve it on the basis of his own individual efforts and creativity.”

    P. 6 “Without some intellectual effort, a commitment to reflect and think hard about your own experience, you will not gain much from this book.”

    “The optimal state of inner experience…happens when psychic energy – or attention – is invested in realistic goals, and when skills match the opportunities for action…Periods of struggling to overcome challenges are what people find to be the most enjoyable times of their lives.”

    P. 7 “It is crucial that one learn to transform jobs into flow-producing activities and to think of ways of making relationships more enjoyable.” “The way to achieve these goals is relatively easy in theory, yet quite difficult in practice.”

    “Obstacles…are implicit in the human condition…Frustration is deeply woven into the fabric of life…Chronic dissatisfaction is an obstacle that stands in the way of contentment.”

    P. 8 “Only the direct control of experience, the ability to derive moment-by-moment enjoyment from everything we do, can overcome the obstacles to fulfillment.”

    P. 9 “Whether we are happy depends on inner harmony, not on controls we are able to exert over the great (or lesser) forces of the universe.”

    “Each of us has a picture, however vague, of what we would like to accomplish before we die. How close we get to attaining this goal becomes the measure for the quality of our lives. If it remains beyond reach, we grow resentful or resigned; if it is at least in part achieved, we experience a sense of happiness and satisfaction.”

    P. 10 “…there is no inherent problem in our desire to escalate our goals, as long as we enjoy the struggle along the way. The problem arises when people are so fixated on what they want to achieve that they cease to derive pleasure form the present. When that happens, they forfeit their chance of contentment.”

    P. 11 “…the pervasive listlessness that affects so many lives. Genuine happy individuals are few and far between… (there is a) general malaise.”

    P. 12 “The roots of discontent are internal, and each person must untangle them personally.”

    “(There is) an increasingly nagging question: ‘Is this all there is?’… Behind it all there is the expectation that after one grows up, things will get better.”

    P. 13 “…it becomes clearer that money, power, status, and possessions do not, by themselves, necessarily add one iota to the quality of life.”

    P. 14 “Religions are only temporarily successful attempts to cope with the lack of meaning in life; they are not permanent…Those who seek consolation in existing churches often pay for their peace of mind with a tacit agreement to ignore a great deal of what is known about the way the world works.”

    P. 16 “…while humankind collectively has increased its material powers a thousand fold, it has not advanced very far in terms of improving the content of experience. There is no way out of this predicament except for an individual to take things in hand personally.

    THE major question for all of us: “Given that we are who we are, with whatever hang-ups and repressions, what can we do to improve our future?

    “…a person has to learn to provide rewards to herself. She has to develop the ability to find enjoyment and purpose regardless of external circumstances… This requires a discipline and perseverance that are relatively rare.”

    “And before all else, achieving control over experience (often) requires a drastic change in attitude about what is important and what is not.”

    P. 19 “The most important step in emancipating oneself from social controls is the ability to find rewards in the events of each moment… Power returns to the person when rewards are no longer relegated to outside forces… We must…learn to take charge of what happens in the mind.”

    P. 20 “The simple truth – that the control of consciousness determines the quality of life… The oracle’s advice in ancient Delphi: ‘Know thyself’”.

    P. 23 “…those who take the trouble to gain mastery over what happens in consciousness do live a happier life.”

    P. 24 “A person can make himself happy, or miserable, regardless of what is actually happening ‘outside’, just by changing the contents of consciousness… This ability to persevere despite obstacles and setbacks is the quality people most admire in others, and justly so; it is probably the most important trait not only for succeeding in life, but for enjoying it as well.” (e.g. Victor Frankl)

    P. 25 “…the mind has enormous untapped potential that we desperately need to learn how to use.”

    P. 26 “We might think of consciousness as intentionally ordered information.” P. 28 “…consciousness can be ordered in terms of different goals and intentions. Each of us has the freedom to control our subjective reality.”

    P. 30 “…an individual can experience only so much. Therefore, the information we allow into consciousness becomes extremely important; it is, in fact, what determines the content and quality of life.”

    P. 31 “The mark of a person who is in control of consciousness is the ability to focus attention at will, to be oblivious to distractions, to concentrate for as long as it takes to achieve a goal, and not longer. And the person who can do this usually enjoys the normal course of everyday life.”

    P. 33 “…psychic energy…We create ourselves by how we invest this energy…Attention is our most important tool in the task of improving the quality of experience.”

    P. 35 “We have seen that experience depends on the way we invest psychic energy – on the structure of attention. This, in turn, is related to goals and intentions. These processes are connected to each other by the self, or the dynamic mental representation we have of the entire system of our goals. These are the pieces that must be maneuvered if we wish to improve things.”

    P. 42 “When we choose a goal and invest ourselves in it to the limits of our concentration, whatever we do will be enjoyable. And once we have tasted this joy, we will redouble our efforts to taste it again.

    P. 43 “Two main strategies…to improve the quality of life: 1) try making external conditions match our goals and 2) change how we experience external conditions to make them fit our goals better.”

    P. 44 “…the quality of life does not depend directly on what others think of us or on what we own. The bottom line is, rather, how we feel about ourselves and about what happens to us. To improve life one must improve the quality of experience.

    “In general there is (only) mild correlation between wealth and well-being.”

    P. 46 “Pleasure is an important component of the quality of life, but by itself it does not bring happiness.” “…enjoyment happens only as a result of unusual investment of attention.”

    P. 48 “To gain personal control over the quality of experience, one needs to learn how to build enjoyment into what happens day in, day out.”

    P. 49 – 67 “The phenomenology of enjoyment” has 8 major components

    1. A Challenging Activity That Requires Skills
    2. Merging of Action and Awareness
    3. Clear Goals
    4. Clear Feedback
    5. High Level of Concentration on the Task at Hand: Focus
    6. The Paradox of Control – lacking the sense of worry about losing control
    7. Loss of Self-Consciousness — little opportunity for the self to be threatened
    8. Time is Transformed – time no longer seems to pass the way it ordinarily does

    P. 70 “The flow experience…is good only in that it has the potential to make life more rich, intense, and meaningful; it is good because it increases the strength and complexity of the self.”

    We must constantly reevaluate what we do, lest habits and past wisdom blind us to new possibilities.”

    P. 72 “…experience can be shaped to improve the quality of life.”

    P. 74 “…every flow activity…transformed the self by making it more complex. In this growth of the self lies the key to flow activities.”

    P. 75 “It is not skills we actually have that determine how we feel, but the ones we think we have.

    P. 80/1 “…both Thomas Jefferson and Chairman Mao Zedong believed that each generation needed to make its own revolution.” “Cultures are defensive constructions against chaos, designed to reduce the impact of randomness on experience.” “Culture can enhance flow.”

    P. 83 “We need to know how to control consciousness – a skill that most people have not learned to cultivate. Surrounded by an almost astounding panoply of recreational gadgets and leisure choices, most of us go on being bored and vaguely frustrated. This fact brings us to the second condition that affects whether an optimal experience will occur or not: an individual’s ability to restructure consciousness so as to make flow possible. Some people enjoy themselves wherever they are, while others stay bored even when confronted with the most dazzling prospects.”

    P. 88 “The association between the ability to concentrate and flow is clear.”

    “The family context promoting optimal experience has five characteristics: clarity, centering, choice, commitment and challenge.”

    P. 94/5 “…the easiest step toward improving the quality of life consists in simply learning to control the body and its senses… Everything the body can do is potentially enjoyable…physical activity contributes to optimal experience.”

    P. 98/9 “Walking is the most trivial physical activity imaginable, yet it can be profoundly enjoyable if a person sets goals and takes control of the process… enjoyment does not depend on what you do, but rather on how you do it” (and how you think about it).

    P. 103 “We can look toward Eastern religions for guidance in how to achieve control over consciousness.”

    P. 105/6 “The similarities between Yoga and flow are extremely strong…made possible by a discipline of the body. Yoga is one of the oldest and most systematic methods of producing the flow experience.

    P. 107 “Visual skills can provide constant access to enjoyable experiences…the pleasure we can derive from just watching nature.”

    P. 117 “…wonder – which is the seed of knowledge – is the reflection of the purest form of pleasure. Reading is currently perhaps the most often mentioned flow activity around the world.”

    P. 119 “…the normal state of the mind is chaos.”

    P. 127 “…playing with ideas is extremely exhilarating.”

    P. 129 “…it could be argued that the main function of conversation is not to get things accomplished, but to improve the quality of experience.”

    P. 132/3 “Observing, recording, and preserving the memory of both the large and small events of life is one of the oldest and most satisfying ways to bring order to consciousness…Having a record of the past can make a great contribution to the quality of life.”

    P. 142 “…the goal of studying… is to understand what is happening around one, to develop a personally meaningful sense of what one’s experience is all about. From that will come the profound joy of the thinker.”

    P. 144 “…if one finds flow in work, and in relations with other people, one is well on the way toward improving the quality of life as a whole.”

    P. 149 “…enjoyment depends on increasing complexity.”

    P. 160 “…’dissatisfaction’ is a relative term.”

    P. 162 “ironically jobs are actually easier to enjoy than free time, because like flow activities they have built-in goals, feedback, rules and challenges, all of which encourage one to become involved in one’s work, to concentrate and lose oneself in it. Free time, on the other hand, is unstructured, and requires much greater effort to be shaped into something that can be enjoyed.”

    “…the underlying emptiness of wasted time…The flow experience that results from the use of skills leads to growth; passive entertainment leads nowhere.”

    P. 163 “Unless a person takes charge of them, both work and free time are likely to be disappointing… People who learn to enjoy their work, who do not waste their time, end up feeling that their lives as a whole have become much more worthwhile.”

    P. 164/5 “…the quality of life depends on two factors: how we experience work and our relations with other people.” “Only in the company of other people do we feel complete.”

    P. 167/8 “Because we depend so much on the affection and approval of others, we are extremely vulnerable to how we are treated by them.” “Companionship is so indispensable to well-being.”

    “Most people feel a nearly intolerable sense of emptiness when they are alone, especially with nothing specific to do.”

    P. 171 “A person who rarely gets bored, who does not constantly need a favorable external environment to enjoy the moment, has passed the test for having achieved a creative life.”

    P. 179 “Cicero: accepting limitations is liberating.”

    P. 180 “In addition to long-term goals, it is imperative to have a constant supply of short-term objectives.”

    P. 186 “…people report the most positive moods overall when they are with friends.”

    p. 203 “The knowledge that one’s sufferings are shared adds an important perspective to the egocentrism of youth.”

    “The peak in the development of coping skills is reached when a young man or woman has achieved a strong enough sense of self, based on personally selected goals, that no external disappointment can entirely undermine who he or she is.”

    P. 204 “Paradoxically, this sense of humility…is a hallmark of strong people.”

    “People who know how to transform stress into enjoyable challenge spend very little time thinking about themselves.”

    P. 207/8 “Almost every situation we encounter in life presents possibilities for growth.”

    “Transformations require that a person be prepared to perceive unexpected opportunities…(but) we will never become aware of other possibilities unless…we pay attention to what is happening around us, and evaluate events on the basis of their direct impact on how we feel.”

    P 209/10 “As soon as the goals and challenges define a system of action, they in turn suggest the skills necessary to operate within it.” Rules for developing the ‘autotelic self’ (one who easily translates potential threats into enjoyable challenges and therefore maintains an inner harmony):

    1. Set goals
    2. Become immersed in the activity – focus
    3. Pay attention to what is happening (self consciousness is the most common source of distraction and it is the very lack of self-consciousness that makes deep involvement possible.)
    4. Learn to enjoy the immediate experience

    P. 213 “To create harmony in whatever one does is the last task that the flow theory presents to those who wish to attain optimal experience; it is a task that involves transforming the entirety of life into a single flow activity, with unified goals that provide constant purpose.”

    P. 215/6 “…any goal can serve to give meaning to a person’s life… What matters is that it focuses a person’s attention and involves it in an achievable, enjoyable activity.”

    P. 217 “…a unified purpose is what gives meaning to life… It is not enough to find a purpose that unifies one’s goals; one must also carry through and meet its challenges. The purpose must result in strivings; intent has to be translated into action…. What counts is not so much whether a person actually achieves what she has set out to do; rather, it matters whether effort has been expended to reach the goal, instead of being diffused or wasted… Few things are sadder than encountering a person who knows exactly what he should do, yet cannot muster enough energy to do it.

    “…we admire people who seem to have come to terms with themselves.”

    P. 220 “…a system of goals can help to organize life into a coherent flow activity.”

    P. 223 “…we must invest energy in recognizing, understanding, and finding ways to adapt to the forces beyond the boundaries of our own individuality.”

    “Purpose gives direction to one’s efforts, but does not necessarily make life easier.”

    P. 224 “Billions of parents…have sacrificed themselves for their children and thereby made life more meaningful for themselves.”

    P. 225 “…complexity and freedom…are a challenge we must find ways to master.”

    P. 226 “… (most) goals that have sustained action over a period turn out not to have enough power to give meaning to the entirety of life…

    Activity and reflection should ideally complement and support each other… If a man has not bothered to find out what he wants, if his attention is so wrapped up in external goals that he fails to notice his own feelings, then he cannot plan action meaningfully.”

    P. 227 “The consequence of forging life by purpose and resolution is a sense of inner harmony.”

    P. 228/9 “When there are too many demands, options, challenges, we become anxious; when too few, we become bored… Boredom is something children have learned the hard way, in response to artificially restricted choices.”

    P. 230/1 “The life theme…identifies what will make existence enjoyable… When a person’s psychic energy coalesces into a life theme, consciousness achieves harmony… Discovered life themes are products of a personal struggle to define the purpose of life.”

    P. 238 “If a new faith is to capture our imagination, it must be one that will account rationally for the things we know, the things we feel, the things we hope for, and the ones we dread. It must be a system of beliefs that will marshal our psychic energy toward meaningful goals, a system that provides rules for a way of life that can provide flow.”

    Glenn Detrick

    04/07

  • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

    By Susan Jeffers —

    Excerpts from the book:

    p.3 “Fear seems to be epidemic in our society.”

    p.4 “Fear is primarily an educational problem.”

    p.6 “Many of us short-circuit our living by choosing the path that is the most comfortable.”

    p.11 We are all trying to do the best we can and are all uncertain about whether we’re good enough. It never varies.

    p.13 “The common denominator is the fact that fear is keeping all of [us] from experiencing life the way they want to experience it.”

    p.13-16 Fear can be broken down into 3 levels:

    1. The surface story (2 types)
      1. Those that happened
      2. Those that require action
    2. Involve the ego and inner states of mind, not exterior situations
    3. “At the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can’t handle whatever life may bring you.”

    ** p.16 “You can handle all your fears without having to control anything in the outside world.”

    p.16-17 “Some fear is instinctual and healthy and keeps us alert to trouble. The part that holds us back from personal growth is inappropriate and destructive and could possibly be blamed on our conditioning.”

    p.17 Society ‘tells’ us to err on the side of caution to protect ourselves more than to protect others.

    p.21 “The logic a person uses can automatically program him/herself for failure.” p. 21

    ** p.22-28 5 truths about fear:

    1. “The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.”
    2. “The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.”
      1. “What really made the difference was the sense of accomplishment I felt in pushing through fear and doing things on my own.”
      2. “The more helpless we feel, the more severe is the undercurrent of dread that comes with knowing there are situations in life over which we have no control.”
    3. “The only way to feel better about myself is to go out and do it.”
    4. “Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.”
    5. “Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.”

    p.27 “Retraining faulty thinking takes constant repetition.”

    p.29 “We can’t escape fear.”

    p.33 “The real issue has nothing to do with the fear itself, but, rather, how we hold the fear.” Some hold their fear from a position of power while others hold it from a position of pain.

    p.34 Power within the self is not egomania, but a healthy self-love.

    p.35 “It’s the ability to get yourself to do what you want to do.”

    p.35 Women are more put off than men are by the concept of power because they have been conditioned to believe that to be powerful is unfeminine and unattractive.

    p.35 “The truth is that love and power go together.”

    p.36 **“Much of the trick of moving from pain to power is taking action.”

    p.37 “Awareness is half the battle.”

    p.37 “You can drop an awful lot of excess baggage if you learn to play with life instead of fighting it.”

    p.37 “If you keep in mind the direction you want to go, it will help you make decisions about what you are doing in your life.”

    p.38 “To be really powerful, you need to be in charge of all aspects of your life. Often people are very powerful in some parts of their lives and pathetic in others.”

    p.38 “In the beginning, you need all the gimmicks you can get to remind you of where you want to go.”

    p.39 “The way you use words has a tremendous impact on the quality of your life.”

    p.39 “Your subconscious believes only what it hears, not what is true.”

    p.40 “It is always better to take responsibility for whatever happens to you in life than always to be the victim.”

    p.43 “The more powerfully you speak, the more you will be a force in the world around you.”

    p.43 “You can bring more power into your life by expanding your comfort zone.”

    p.49 “So many of us think we are taking responsibility for our own lives when we simply are not. The ‘victim’ mentality is very subtle and takes many forms.”

    p.50 When you give away your power, you become paralyzed in your attempts to deal with fear.

    p.52-63 7 definitions of taking responsibility:

    “Taking responsibility means…

    1. never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having or feeling.”
    2. not blaming yourself.”
    3. being aware of where and when you are not taking responsibility so that you can eventually change.” “Anger is your clue that you are not taking responsibility.”
    4. handling the Chatterbox. It’s the voice that heralds doom, lack and losing.”
    5. being aware of payoffs that keep you ‘stuck.’ Payoffs explain why we choose to perpetuate what we don’t want in our lives.
    6. figuring out what you want in life and acting on it.” “You have the power to create what you need.”
    7. being aware of the multitude of choices you have in any given situation.”

    p.65-67 6 exercises to help you feel noticeably more powerful in the face of your fears:

    1. “List all the payoffs you get from staying stuck in some aspect of your life.”
    2. “Be aware of all the options you have during the course of a given day.”
    3. “Start noticing what you say in conversations with friends.”
    4. “In a notebook, list the many choices available to you that can change presently upsetting experiences into positive ones. “The key is not to blame others for your being upset.”
    5. “Begin to look at the gifts you have received from what you have always looked at as a ‘bad’ situation.”
    6. “See if you can go one week without criticizing anyone or complaining about anything.”

    **p.72 “Positive thinking is one of the most difficult of all concepts to get across to people.”

    p.72 “There is an automatic assumption that negative is realistic and positive is unrealistic.”

    **p.72 “It is reported that over 90% of what we worry about never happens.”

    p.73 “Nothing is realistic or unrealistic—there is only what we think about any given situation. We create our own reality.”

    p.75 “Positive words make us physically strong; negative words make us physically weak.”

    p.76 “Negative thoughts take away your power and thus make you more paralyzed from your fear.”

    p.78-80 6 tools to make your daily routine more efficient and more pleasurable:

    1. A small portable cassette player
    2. Inspirational tapes
    3. Inspirational books
    4. Index cards
    5. Positive quotes
    6. Affirmations—a positive statement that something is already happening.
    • Always state affirmations in the present
    • Always phrase affirmations in the positive

    p.80 “Outtalk your negativity.”

    p.85 “Positive thinking needs daily practice.”

    p.85 **“Positive thinking in its most constructive form does not deny the pain and suffering that exist in this world.”

    p.86 Denial and hopelessness create inactivity.

    p.86 “The key is to know that you can lead a productive and meaningful life no matter what the external circumstances are.”

    p.90 “It is amazingly empowering to have the support of a strong, motivated and inspirational group of people.”

    p.90 “Negativity is contagious.”

    p.92 “Life becomes more fun and less of a struggle when you don’t have to pioneer on your own.”

    p.94 “What we resist, persists.”

    p.104 “When you rock the boat, someone will tell you to sit down. It is their way of defending their security.”

    **p.116-117 “Underlying all our fears is a lack of trust in ourselves.”

    p.118 “The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is the key to allowing yourself to take risks.”

    **p.118 “Security is not having things; it’s handling things.”

    p.119-124 Before making a decision:

    1. “Affirm to yourself, I can’t lose—regardless of the outcome of the decision I make.”
    2. “Do your homework.”
    3. “Establish your priorities.”
    4. “Trust your impulses.”
    • “There was no right or wrong decision, just different ones.
      • “The trick is simply to make whatever place you’re in your educational forum and learn everything you can about yourself and the world around your.”
      • “Lighten up.”

    p.124-125 After making a decision:

    1. “Throw away your picture.”
    2. “Accept total responsibility for your decisions.”
    3. “Don’t protect, correct.”
      1. When you take responsibility for your decisions, you become a lot less angry at the world, and, most important, a lot less angry at yourself.

    p.127 “The trick in life is not to worry about making a wrong decision; it’s learning when to correct!”

    p.127 “The two most obvious clues are confusion and dissatisfaction.”

    p.141 “Act as if you really count.”

    p.142 “Participating 100% eliminates boredom.”

    p.146 “Action is the key to your success.”

    p.154 “Saying yes means letting go of resistance and letting in the possibilities that our universe offers in new ways of seeing the world.”

    p.154 Saying yes is the miracle tool for dealing with our deepest, darkest fears.

    p.155 “With a positive attitude, value can be created from anything that happens to you in life.”

    p.158 “Acknowledgement of pain is very important.”

    p.160 Those who withdraw from life, choose symbolically to hide under the covers to keep themselves from becoming victims—ironically, end up complete victims of their own fears.

    **p.161 “The last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” Victor Frankl

    p.162 “It is only when we see possibility for change that we can work to effect change.”

    p.162 “Saying yes means getting up and acting on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you.”

    p.163-164 5 steps to saying yes:

    1. “Create awareness that you are saying no.”
    2. “There is something about physically affirming an idea that helps to create acceptance.”
    3. “Physically relax your body.”
    4. “Look for ways to create value from any experience.”
    5. “Be patient with yourself.”

    p.170 “Most of us in our society do not really know how to give.”

    • p.174 “It’s easy to give when you feel abundantly endowed, but you only feel that way when you give, not before!” Give away thanks. Give away information. Give away praise.
    • Give away time. Give away money. Give away love

    p.178 “So much of what we learn in life comes to us with great difficulty.”

    p.179 “You must become what you want to attract.”

    p.182 Act as if you do count.

    **p.184 “You can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence. To love is to be able to give.”

    p.184 “Your life is already abundant. You simply haven’t noticed it.”

    p.200 “Positive self-talk works even if you don’t believe it initially.”

    p.213 “The biggest pitfall as you make your way through life is impatience.”

    p.214 “Patience means knowing it will happen and giving it time to happen.”

    p.215 “Trust your feelings.”

    p.217 “Experience is our greatest teacher.”

    p.219 “To become involved is to reduce our fear.”

    Chelsea Detrick